Tuesday, November 14, 2006

the needs of man

J Dog came home with a funny story last night. As he's leaving work in a hurry (mostly because I've been sick the last two days w/ an offshoot of walking pneumonia courtesy of M and I called begging for reinforcements) a client approached him rather aggressively on his way out the door.

Guy: I am a man, and I like to c*ome. (Humor the edits, I am saving weird googlers the disappointment of not finding something better to read)
J: Excuse me?
Guy: I am a man, and I like to c*ome. (I am on the floor by now, picturing this and J's face)
J: I am confused why you are telling me this, because it makes me feel uncomfortable (good one, J). Are you saying you are like to e*jac/ulate?
Guy: I am a man, and I like to c*ome.
J: Ok, Guy, you obviously need to talk about this but I am not sure how to respond. Are you saying you like to c*ome or you need to c*ome?
Guy: I need to.
J: Ah, ok. So that is different. I am hearing you say you are having trouble c*oming. Is that true?
Guy: Yes.
J: Ok. There are many reasons that might be occuring (synopsis of medication contraindications and so forth) How about we talk about some other things you can try safely and privately so that you are able to take care of yourself?

Bless him. I think I might not have stopped to try and flesh (pun intended) this one out, if it were me. But he saw it as a treatment opportunity and took it.

And then I wondered how many therapeutic moments we all miss in the course of our daily lives where kids/friends/co-workers/clients reach out tentatively (or otherwise), and we don't take the time to allow it to unravel because it makes us feel uncomfortable? I am betting I do it more often than I think - and something this overt is a good reminder.

25 comments:

Jess Riley said...

I had to re-read this a few times to make sure I was reading what I thought I was reading...you can't make that stuff up!!!

daufiero said...

This is uplifting on many levels. Thank you, Jen.

Penny said...

That was hilarious!

Where does your J-dog work or what does he do that he would be walking somewhere and get stopped by a man expressing this need and articulating himself in this manner? Very interesting.

mrs.incredible - aka - Tabba said...

Hilarious! But good for JDog. Which is why this man probably sought him out. You can always tell the type of people that are willing to help and want to help & those that will run in the other direction, screaming and waving their hands in the air.
You two make a wonderful pair.

jen said...

pen,
J works in a psycho-social rehab w/ the severely mentally ill. thanks for asking, sweets.

Anonymous said...

OMG - Bless him for not laughing. I guess given the context, you probably wouldn't anyway. You are right, tho, about listening carefully - it is something we could all give a little more effort.

you da mom! said...

i think i might have just turned and walked away, but then again it would be a whole other situation coming (pun fully intended) from a woman's p.o.v.

acumamakiki said...

He sounds like a patient man. Taken out of context it's hilarious but in the situation, I know I wouldn't have responded in kind.
Clever girl you are, to change the words, knowing what freak shows might come visiting.

meno said...

I c*ame here today from Google. :)

Bless your J-Dog for not giving this Guy the brush-off. I don't think i could have been that astute to figure out that the Guy had a problem.

Anonymous said...

Jen, Thanks for the link - and the sisterhood. E-mail me sometime (address is on the site) as I would love to have a discussion about the role of the blog and social consciousness...
Best,
Jessica

Anonymous said...

Very good story.. and funny! It is good that JDog was intuitive enough to realize the guy wasn't just being a smart alec. He really wanted answers.

Still, please forgive me for a hearty chuckle!

:)


Peace,

~Chani (Thailand Gal)

Anonymous said...

i loved this! recently, because my other half was poorly, i found myself driving our boy to school. about half way there, out of the blue, he said "what do lesbians do in bed? i mean it doesn't work on a mechanical level does it?" this is while rubbing his knuckles together to demonstrate how he sees it and then showing the finger in the hole sign. (for those who don't know me, my son is autistic rather than badly brought up).

so is spent the rest of the trip explaining about errogenous zones and how penetration isn't the be all and end all (to an 11 year old for god's sake! - but he is not the sort of kid you can words with).

then as we draw up at school i say "this sort of stuff isn't appropriate for school talk, ok?"

this has to be said given some of the previous stuff at school. but why should it be something to be kept quiet? we would all be more comfortable if we talked about things - as i've said before in other contexts...

Penny said...

Thank Goodness that man sought help from another man. If he'd walked up to me, I probably would have been conditioned enough to think he was being a pervert. I feel badly saying that, but I probably wouldn't have reacted well, depending on his demeanor and how close the next available human being was in proximity to me.

Bless J-dog for engaging in that man-to-man talk. It shows a lot of dignity and respect.

And, bless him for telling you and you for sharing. It was just the giggle I needed during my morning break, today. ;)

sunshine scribe said...

He's a good man that J-dog.

And only you can make me laugh and teach me a lesson all in one post :)

flutter said...

That is hilarious, and sweet, and kind....and hilarious.

What a good guy you have

Momish said...

The two of you cease to amaze me. I would have never been able to keep my composure as J-Dog did. Hats off to him!

Anonymous said...

Like Meno, I got here via Google. I was googling e*jac/ulate. Tee hee.

Of course we miss these opportunities because they FREAK US OUT!

Nancy said...

It's touching how well he handled that. So many people would have just been put off by what he said, or would have just laughed. Though I did read your comment about where he works -- I am sure he has a heart of gold and an infinite amount of patience to work in that environment!

Mrs. Chicky said...

Yeah, that one would have made me turn tail and run. But given what your husband does for a living, I think he deserves a medal. Or at least a raise.

Anonymous said...

Off topic: Jen - I was just thinking that I got into the work I do now when I started volunteering at the Berkeley Global Exchange store. There's some good folks now at a place in Berkeley called World of Good (they're on the web too). I serve on their development org board.

ecm said...

Great story! And the ending is actually pretty touching. A teachable moment.

Anonymous said...

J is a patient man. I can't imagine the conversations you two must have at night.

Jenny said...

I cannot stop giggling at that.

Bless his heart.

Anonymous said...

That J-Dog is one intuitive fella. I need to be hit on the head with a bag of hammers to decode any kind of emotional turmoil.

Ruth Dynamite said...

You and that J-Dog are Good Human Beings. Thank you.