Sunday, December 03, 2006

A betrothal of cross cultural ideals and same sex beliefs

Mad asked me to marry her. She did. It's right back there a few posts ago in the comments section in black and white.

I mulled it over for about 20 seconds. Then I immediately accepted.

Before the naysayers chime in, with the you are both married (mine isn't legal and well, Canadians are cooler about the same sex thing) or the whole you've never even met each other thing (Russian brides do it all the time) and the how do you know you guys can stand each other in real life (yet to be seen but odds are high) and the what about your partners (my gut says both might be totally psyched about it)

Take a moment to think about it. About a union of minds and souls and hearts - where we are willing to stand up and commit ourselves to our common belief system, where we are willing to bravely throw caution to the wind because we know in our hearts that what we believe is so profound, so important, and so oriented towards bettering our planet that we are willing to run pell mell into marriage, and well, hell....our kids have instant playmates. Admit it, you are jealous already.

In fact, if I may take it one step further (and great liberties with the post in general) - our commitment will be centered on coming together to form a better world. Our commitment will be to give social justice a voice so in turn there may be change.

Margaret Mead summed it up best: Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.

So, perhaps that means we make this a group wedding. Let's get wild and drunk (figuratively speaking for those of you who abstain) on the idea that a small group of committed people CAN change the world.

It'll be a hell of a reception. If we are going to break bigamy laws, might as well do it right. Who's in? And if you are in, your wedding present to us will be to tell us the area of social justice you are passionate about, and what we can do about it. On your blog or in the comments, your choice. Just bring it on.

If you choose to join us, send me the link to your post and next weekend, we'll have one big social justice wedding and all of your vows will be included. And that means Mad only has to actually court me for a week. I am easy like that.

Oh, and the totally other cool part is I am betting that on top of being a passionate, brilliant, and socially minded woman, Mad is pretty hot, too.

I scored.

43 comments:

Anonymous said...

Jen, dearest. I accept your acceptance and will post tomorrow a billet doux chez moi (hey, I live in a bilingual place even if I am not bilingual myself.)

Anonymous said...

well i like the commitment idea, but I do have to ask.... are you just joking? Just wondering. rock on!

Anonymous said...

And if you are in, your wedding present to us will be to tell us the area of social justice you are passionate about, and what we can do about it. On your blog or in the comments, your choice. Just bring it on.


Ok. I'm in. I will post it during the week, even though it's a temptation to be lazy and put it in the comments section instead.


Peace,

~Chani (who thinks same sex marriage should be totally okay, btw, as my best friend and her partner should, should, should be married! LOL)

Anonymous said...

Let the courtship begin.

Anonymous said...

Love this post and I think I will respond on my blog so as not to clog your already way busy comments section with my drivel : )

KC said...

Love this. I can feel the fire in your words.

I'm in. I'm not one to miss a wild and drunken reception, especially if that means partying with you and your crew.

crazymumma said...

A group of hot blogging women who expect nothing more of me that to be me, in all my human frailty.
As to my subject....the winds will lead me to the mood of the moment.
by the way... I dance at weddings, The whole time...

I'm in.

you da mom! said...

are you gonna register? cuz i've already got like a kazillion gifts to buy this season. if you don't mind, i might just knit you a scarf.

mothergoosemouse said...

I'll second you - all of our partners will surely dig this idea.

That means I'm in. And you've already hit upon my social injustice pet peeve - the idea that marriage is restricted to men and women.

Marriage is a legal contract. It may ALSO be a religious sacrament. But simply because a deity does not recognize my marriage - because, DUH, I don't believe in one and therefore haven't requested any input - that doesn't mean I'm any less married in the eyes of the law.

It's a simple matter of consistency. And while I'm still very much attached to my tax dollars, the Religious Right is losing me purely on the basis of inconsistency.

With this blasphemy, I thee wed.

Anonymous said...

May I be the first to offer the two of you something? :)

http://thailandgal.blogspot.com/2006/12/bread-and-roses.html


~Chani

Anonymous said...

I'm in ... and will post something on my blog :)

Mrs. Chicky said...

So let me get this straight (heh, straight. Get it?)... This is about social injustice and not hot girl on girl action? I just want to be clear because this has the potential to be really embarrassing.

I feel incredibly proud to live in a state that has made same sex marriage legal. Proud and a little bit smug. ;) I'm sure I have a cause or two I could rustle up a post about.

Um, before I go... Can I be a bridesmaid?

Penny said...

I've always believed in marriage and in love, respectively, for what they were meant in their ideal sense. I have never married, because I have never trusted the situation enough. A marriage of the minds, is what I have with my friends and I'm in for a marriage of the minds, here.

My vow:

To read, comment and take to heart and into the world, the hearts of all of you, in my daily tasks and decision making to try to make this a better place.

mrs. incredible said...

I'll have to put some thought into this one. I'm bogged down with academia. Papers, reading, papers, tests, reading, etc.
But there are so many 'causes' I'd love to fight for - it won't be hard for me to come up with something. As soon as the smoke clears & the dust settles a bit inside my wee brain ;)

sunshine scribe said...

Well you know I am gonna beg to join. I rant about violence against women and social causes pretty regularly ... does that count. If not I'd be happy to be a bridesmaid with Mrs. Chicky. Just no pink tafeta please :)

jen said...

sunshine - OF COURSE it counts. just send me a link.

and hell, no...pink taffeta..OUT.

meno said...

Will there be rings?

Great idea. I already rant about taking care of kids, but i can do it again.

I will do it again.

I do.

Deezee said...

Without getting into all the beautiful merit of this post, can I just say you're way too prolific. I mean, you work, you have a kid, you have a mate (with another on the way, apparently), and you crank out these posts of thinking, intelligent ideas as if they're effortless. Kind of pisses me off ;)

Nancy said...

Woo hoo!! Congrats to you and Mad, and thanks for extending the offer so generously. Sounds like there's a lot of hot blogging mamas already in the fray.

I will join the happy group as well. I'm glad you did give us a little bit of time so hopefully I can get out of my blogging funk and come back with a good post.

And I am SO glad that pink taffeta is not part of the wedding plans. Definitely not my color or fabric.

Momish said...

Congrats, you two crazy kids! Can I be the flower girl? I mean, if you are going to be breaking some rules, why can't a 40 year old be a flower girl!

As for the social injustice post, I will have to think. There are a lot of things that I get on my high horse about, but they tend to center around animal rights (no pun intended regarding the high horse there). But, animals are social, so that kinda fits in a way. Right?

flutter said...

rrrrooooowwwrrrr, my fluttery heart just went all atwitter! Can I sing at your reception?

jen said...

lori,

animals are definitely welcome.

Deb said...

geez....miss reading you for a couple of days and here ya are gettin' married!

Is it too late to join in? I am always up for drunken wild girl(brain)on girl(brain) action PLUS the added bonus of social justice activism.......

It's almost TOO SEXY!!!

Anonymous said...

love it. and that's coming from someone who received a big, honking 'diamond' ring from an 11 year old tonight! will post at my place!

Anonymous said...

Jen darling, I'm in too, though I'm more of a worrier than a fighter and you may find a disappointingly polite post.

Anonymous said...

I'm in.

jen said...

deb, z, liv, OTJ...

Woohoo...thank you!

Anonymous said...

'Kay, after my embarrassingly uninformed post over at BubnPie, I have finally been clued in on this union of yours and I'd love to participate. Especially in (dis-)honour of the Canadian government proposing a motion to "revisit" the same-sex marriage issue today (rrrgghhh).

I'll post something to my blog, but as I'm not a very prolific poster...does the same wedding etiquette apply? Do I really have a year to give my gift to the happy couple? 'Cause then I can *guarantee* you something.

jen said...

oh-so-sage :)

yes, whatever you need. if you have something up by Saturday we'll link you to the festivities on Sunday - but the good news is I hear my soon to be coming wedding present will mean we all have much more time in the future to post and get involved...more to come on that!

carrie said...

My wedding present to you was written in July, 2006 "Grocery Shopping Blues". I guess you could call me a "re-gifter"!!

Carrie

KC said...

Hey, do we all get wooden rings?

KC said...

Um..another question. I seemed to have assumed this was a mass wedding but now not so sure reading some of the posts that have followed. Did I get it wrong? If so my post needs a bit of editing...

jen said...

mass wedding, kc...mass wedding.

the truth is it can be anything we want it to be.

as long as you are there with us.

Jenny said...

I'm in. I never miss a chance to wear a formal dress.

Now I've just got to work on the post. Anytime this week, right?

jen said...

jenny!

WooHoo! Just send it to me by Saturday PM.

rock on. I knew you'd be down for this.

Anonymous said...

I'm in. My gift is here:

http://susannefritzsche.blogspot.com/2006/12/wedding-plans.html

I'm just off to put the champagne in the fridge.

Anonymous said...

I love weddings!! I'm so in.

Having spent seven years working for organization committed to protecting women's reproductive rights, I think I have my topic.

Will send my gift as soon as the post is up.

Great idea ladies, great idea!!

Anonymous said...

There is another post dedicated to your wedding over on my blog, but I couldn't figure out how to link back to this post after the fact.

So excited for the big day!!

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