Sunday, April 01, 2007

freshly born

When M was born I asked to keep my placenta. The hospital didn't like that and said if I wanted to keep it, it had to be removed from the hospital immediately. I guess that was supposed to be a deterrent, but I sent J home bucket in hand while the rest of my organs stayed put. It lived in our freezer for a year.

We buried it under a new tree on M's first birthday, and the tree bloomed for the first time this week. Delicious white blooms that smell remarkably like a newborn. I don't know if it has anything to do with the placenta, but I'd like to think that it does.

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21 comments:

mamatulip said...

I like to think that it does, too.

Looking forward to the JP Round Table this month.

Beck said...

I made a comment about keeping our placenta right after the birth of The Baby and the whole delivery room went quiet with discomfort. WIMPS!

Blog Antagonist said...

I was a doula for about 4 years, and I realized that hospital staff as a rule, is uncomfortable with anything that doesn't fall into their sterilized little definition of "normal".

I was generally allowed to do anything I wanted, but they raised their eyebrows and quietly telegraphed their belief that I was some sort of nutjob to one another with their eyes.

None of my hospital clients ever asked to keep their placenta, but I'm sure it would have been met with much the same attitude.

I've never heard of "Just Post" until I started reading your blog. What a wonderful idea. I'll definitely be checking in to read all the nominations.

Thailand Gal said...

That sounds like a very natural idea. And I really like the idea of planting it by the tree. There's no doubt that it had something to do with the tree blooming this year.


Peace,

~Chani

jen said...

It's actually under the tree - we used it mixed w/ the earth and bought a seedling.

you should see it now.

Hel said...

Wow, what a powerful symbol. The white flowers and the afterbirth.

I was saddened by your previous post. Please accept a big hug from a heart that is feeling heavy for the same reasons.

I spend the morning with a friend. She has spend the last two years setting up crèches for aids orphans with food gardens. She heard last week that they are building a road and in the process flattening all her and the communities hard work. The local counsellor refused to intervene on her behalf because she is white. So stupid.

The good thing is that the community has grown stronger from this and is showing a lot of support.

One more hug. I think you are wonderful and I yearn for the beer we will one day share.

NotSoSage said...

Mme L's is STILL in the freezer, and we've been planning on doing the exact same thing. I want to plant a Japanese maple over it, but we're not positive that it will live in the shade of our backyard.

I love that the blooms of yours smell like a newborn. That's haunting.

s@bd said...

oh wow.
I ummm ... am unbelievably puke-able (what? it's a word). If someone ELSE had taken my placenta and buried it for me, I would have been thrilled. BUT no WAY, no HOW could I have done it my own self.

(In fact, just the thought is making me want to breathe a little deeper ... and put my head between my knees ...)

Lucia said...

That's quite lovely. There's a tree just over the fence in my backyard. A magnolia. My neighbors (who now have moved away) planted it for their daughter when she was born. And named her Oona Magnolia. (I don't know if there's a placenta under that tree, but there just might be.)

Bon said...

hospitals are indeed uncomfortable with an awful lot.

i love it when things bloom, and since it snowed here yesterday, i'll have to live vicariously through your blooming tree.

we buried some of Finn's ashes under a Japanese maple we planted in our own backyard...and oh how i wish it bloomed, but we don't have the climate for that. still, the tree is a thing of beauty for me...life from life.

Thailand Gal said...

Ah. The placenta *under* the tree. Well, I like that even better! Can you snap a picture of the tree for us?

:)

Peace,

~Chani

meno said...

What a lovely idea. And that reaction is typical of hospitals. They were probably concerned with bio-hazards or some other inane crap.

KC said...

A placenta is an amazing thing. They say that it's the strength of the placenta that impacts a child's growth during the first couple of years and not genetics.

(Our pediatrician said I had a 12 cylinder placenta).

But planting it under the tree is just beautiful.

kristen said...

I love this story, especially that the blooms smell like a newborn, the most delicious smell.

urban-urchin said...

I love that you planted a tree, and didn't make 'plazagna' which is a for real, true recipe I found when looking into saving mine.

flutter said...

I imagine it as a gorgeous, exotic tree with beautiful flowers.

Em said...

My doctor was shocked when I said I wanted to see the placenta. I can't imagine what she would have done if I'd said I wanted to take it home!

Tabba said...

Nothing. And I mean NOTHING smells better than a newborn. What an awesome thing...

kgirl said...

Mine (Bee's) is still in our freezer too. (Yes, me and Sage have bonded over this) We also plan to plant it - perhaps this will be the year!
I guess another plus of homebirth is that no one bats an eye when you keep your organs in the deep freeze.

That Girl said...

Jen. You are the coolest person I know.

QT said...

That is awesome and I too would love to see a pic of the tree in bloom.

Hospitals - don't get me started. You should not go to a place that is full of sick and dying people to give birth to a new life- just my 2 cents.