Friday, May 11, 2007

turning the tables

M and I went to Whole Foods he other day to pick up a few things; a treat I allow myself to indulge in every few months. A fancy new one opened near where we live and let me tell you, it's pure money. The super deluxe model of all things organic and lovely.

As we are heading in M, while screeching for blue cookies (um, dude, this is WF. No blue cookies here. And stop saying that in front of all the organically correct green people lest they think I actually feed you blue cookies) sees the tables outside and says me want to sit there and have a snack. Ok. I'd not have thought of it, but why not.

So we indulge in some shopping, me wheeling M around (while she munches on an organic free range pesticide free locally grown apple) picking out far too expensive cheeses and the like. We also gather some snacks for our spontaneous table date. We check out and I load the single most expensive shopping bag of my life into the car and head back to the table. M climbs into the seat across from me and we sit calmly, snacking. Talking a bit about bumblebees, flowers, and cars. You know, girl stuff. No heavy issues, politics or whatnot. Just me, my kid, and snacks.

It's changing, this mom gig. It's getting better and better, my confidence in my own abilities have grown and matured. There is a companionship of sorts intermingling with the parenting, an exchange of giggles and dreams, of fantasy and make believe. I watched her from across the table, her brilliant smile and shining eyes and all I could think was how fantastically lucky I am to have gotten to meet someone as spectacular as her.

33 comments:

Sober Briquette said...

Yum. The food, you and M, the company.

FYI, this now constitutes a "tradition" in her mind now.

metro mama said...

This is wonderful Jen.

QT said...

YAY! That sounds like so much fun!I bet the two of you were quite a picture.

I agree, Whole Foods is crazy expensive! I got out of there last week and spent only $25 on two items -olive oil & cheese. I considered it a success.

kgirl said...

sounds awesome!

me and bee have a thursday night standing date at our local wf-ish store, where we eat a totally delicious, totally expensive organic dinner from their mouth-watering prepared foods deli, and then share a muffin together for dessert. we also talk about a two-year old version of the world, and it is the best night of the week by far. and worth every penny.

NotSoSage said...

Oh, wow. I am just getting glimpses of this coming up for us and I'm SOOO excited.

That sounds lovely.

Tabba said...

It really is divine. When they are on that verge...that verge of something truly spectacular. They are teetering, between baby and kid. And somehow, as sacred as it is, they want to share it with us.
Amazing it all is.

J Fife said...

Just beautiful. Love the blue cookie comment. I think my daughter was begging for JELLY BEANS! while we were in there.

KC said...

Pure money, jen. These times are worth the price in tantrums and diaper duty.

It's funny but a few months ago, Jolie and I were just like you, sharing a table at Whole Foods, gazing into each other's eyes while snacking on flatbread crackers. She also picked out the most expensive organic apple she's ever had, and I bought the most expensive organically-grown garlic bulb to ever be marketed.

We don't go often, but it is such the treat. (and oh the cheese samples!)

kristen said...

It is the most wonderful thing, having this little best friend isn't it? Just wait, it keeps on getting better. Six is the most delicious age yet. xo

PS. It's called Whole Paycheck for a reason. (=

crazymumma said...

sniff.

I know. I just really know.

She must have been just as happy about it as you are.

Mad Hatter said...

Miss M and I have the odd "coffee date" at a joint downtown where I can get a latte and she can get a rice crispie square. We sit at the table and "hang out" together. It is precious and no words can close to the glory of it all--although yours do the experience justice.

meno said...

The other day my daughter told me "You know mommy, i think if we had been kids at the same time we would have been friends."

I got a little weepy.

I think that's where you're headed, lunch with a friend.

christina said...

i can't wait to have those conversations.

Denguy said...

That's such a great memory you now have to look back on.

hel said...

Sigh I also want to spend the day with my little girl (which I still have to acquire), you and M and good cheese and talk about stuff. My whole heart is filled with wanting it.

And I never got the chance to tell you how I loved your just post-it post. It made me terribly happy.

I'm sorry I never got around to posting, if only the just post-it links,but it is crazy this side with assignments.

carrie said...

Thank you for sharing that free-range, pestitide free, dye free, organic moment with us. :)

Happy Mother's Day!

Carrie

bubandpie said...

It's such a good moment, that realization that your baby has become a companion, someone you really like.

Ruth Dynamite said...

I love moments like this with my daughter. (And Whole Foods? Like a dream.)

Beck said...

It's fun and almost magical when they suddenly go from being this goofy baby to A PERSON YOU CAN HANG OUT WITH. Good times! My now 8 year old daughter and I can have ACTUAL CONVERSATIONS! It's something to look forward too.

Joker The Lurcher said...

this rings many bells! my son is a great lunch companion - we go for spaghetti and he has really good manners and enjoys it so much. it is a really funny feeling as they grow up - you feel so proud and yet a lot of who they are is the constant work we put into them, both their practical needs but more importantly guidance and explanation of the weird ways of the world.

have a ball!

Aliki2006 said...

I love this post! It describes that line of demarcation I love as well--when going out with your child(ren) involves more than parenting--but that shared companionship you write so well about.

slouching mom said...

It does get better and better. It really does.

Until adolescence, I suppose.

thailandchani said...

all I could think was how fantastically lucky I am to have gotten to meet someone as spectacular as her.

You really do get it.


Peace,

~Chani

Deezee said...

Only at Whole Foods can you walk out with six items and have it cost $34! (my Wed experience...and boy was it tasty...)

flutter said...

Oh love, happy mother's day.

Pgoodness said...

That sounds wonderful. My son has taken to wanting to eat in at Tim Horton's when we go. At first I fought it - it's so much easier to get it in the drive-thru and keep going. But then I realized that this was probably a fleeting thing and it has been quite enjoyable the couple of times we've done it. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that these are little people and if we slow down a bit, they are fun to chat with and get to know. You and I often seem to be in similar places....

urban-urchin said...

My little girl tells me something similar to what em told meno.
"Mama, I wish you were seven then we could grow up being best friends."

I think she's on to something- as she grows, I grow. It's a beautiful thing, and it just gets better Jen- you have so much to look forward to.

scribbit said...

Oh I completely agree, it just gets better. Children are more fun the older they get--they're better conversation :)

Oh, The Joys said...

It's strange how, despite your faith in the opposite, you somehow come to enfold the identity of "mother" into your old self and emerge something wholly new and other - something you could not have imagined.

K said...

I had a moment like that with my baby girl today and realized how lucky I was to have someone to make him slow down and enjoy.

Karen Forest said...

Lucky to meet "someone as spectacular as her"?


You formed her into that spectacular being....she is lucky too. Don't forget that.

Kyla said...

The evolution of these little needy creatures into interactive companions is amazing.

Susanne said...

What a nice moment (and De is right, this is a tradition now). It really is amazing to see how the person that always has been inside one's kid is emerging more and more as they grow.