Sunday, February 17, 2008

it's not you, it's me

Why is it when men are sick they seem to be able to get more rest than when women are sick (women and men who happen to be parents of little people during the aforementioned sickness).

Why is that, exactly?

34 comments:

liv said...

just because, and don't forget, they firmly believe that sex will cure them.

Omaha Mama said...

The reason? My firm belief is mommy guilt. Daddy's do not experience mommy guilt when they completely check out of the daily routine during illness.

Defiantmuse said...

um. because they are weaker?

kidding. kinda.

maybe it's just that women feel more of s sense of responsibility to "get things done".

you know, the age-old, "Moms don't get sick days".

have you ever heard the term "Dads don't get sick days"?

I sure haven't.

kristen said...

dude, it's a big bone of contention for me. when M is sick, the house is under house arrest and there's moaning and complaining and not much sympathy from me. which is a big bone of contention from the mister.

when i'm sick it's carry on kiki, as though it's any other day. maybe it's because i don't complain. or maybe it's because i'm a hypochondriac so when i actually am sick, the illness seems small in comparison.

although when i had shingles, i was told (not kidding) at least it's not anything worse? worse than what?

i'll stop here because i'm getting all riled and i might just have to rochambeau M when he walks back in the door.

Gwen said...

Oh no, it is me, too. Things in our house are exactly. the. same. I get around it by just never being sick.

If I had any healthy vibes in my house that I weren't currently sucking on myself, I'd send them to you!

flutter said...

there is a complicated algebraic equation involved and I would get it for you, but I'm sick.

jennifer said...

women are stupid that way... myself included

Kyla said...

I don't know, but it is SO true.

Her Grace said...

Oh, please. Don't get me started.

Beck said...

I have my theories on this subject.

kgirl said...

because we are suckers and let them.

ewe are here said...

This is a topic that drives me insane. So all I'm going to say is that I've noticed that when a woman gets a cold, it's just a cold and things still have to be done so she gets them done. But when a man gets a cold, it's 'man flu' and he must lay in bed or on the couch and do nothing or he will die. Grrrrrrr.

Mrs. Chicken said...

Lady, if you find the answer to this riddle, you will be deified!

deb said...

Because men get "man colds".

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE

Hetha said...

We had an argument about this very recently. At least he recognized the truth in it and felt bad as a result.

heather said...

Ha! Because the moms worry that the dads are doing things like watching NASCAR while the baby opens the cabinet and uses it as a ladder to reach the steak knife that was left carelessly on the counter. Oh yes. Dads just blissfully take what they need when they're sick because they know that the house won't fall down around them while they recover.

painted maypole said...

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

definately the best rhetorical question I've heard in a while. ;)

hope everyone is healthy soon

Lawyer Mama said...

Actually, my problem is a little different. T rarely gets sick. I've only ever seem him incapacitated twice. But the problem is that he then assumes no one else gets sick. And feels free to go about his day accordingly. Never mind if I can't crawl more than 2 feet and am puking every 15 minutes.

Of course the TWO times in 14 years that I've actually seen him stuck in bed, he was dying. DYING, I tell you. And did. absolutely. nothing.

crazymumma said...

I dunno. But it never ceases to piss me off.

thailandchani said...

"We teach people how to treat us." Maya Angelou

:)

mamatulip said...

This is one of those things that I can't help but resent a bit, you know?

Orangeblossoms said...

Well I suppose we all have living proof of this.... and for me, today the living proof was the man asleep on the sofa like a wounded steer this afternoon. AGAIN. Have I mentioned that I work a zillion hours on Sunday and have been sick for two weeks myself!? You struck a nerve with this one.

pgoodness said...

men are babies when they are sick. they think the world stops when they don't feel well. meanwhile, we still have to make sure the kids eat, the house doesn't fall down, and try not to throw the chicken noodle soup at them. And in the end, it's easier to tell them to just go to bed than deal with the whining. :-)

FENICLE said...

Men are weak!

Amy Y said...

I think that men never truly evolved beyond cave men.

We experience this in my house also. I have two boys, but I am determined for them to not be babies for their wives (or husbands?) to take care of one day!

When I am sick, life must proceed as normal but when hubby is sick, the world stops for him.

Sigh.

Yes, I am jealous.

Sober Briquette said...

I do think it's partly our own fault. If my husband feels like going to lie down, he will. Even if he's home and I feel like going to lie down, I will think that I had better not until I've made sure that the wet clothes are in the dryer, the dishes are done, the diaper is changed....The last time I felt horrible, I just went and laid on the couch. I felt guilty listening to him clean up the kitchen, but I forced myself to stay there. He wasn't mad at all.

Magpie said...

Ha ha ha.

Not only does mine whine and wail way more than I ever do, he also always manages to come down with whatever I might have.

Men.

Janet said...

Umm, because their mama's turned them into big 'ol sucks? Just a theory.

mitzh said...

Because men are babies. ;P

Joker The Lurcher said...

don't you have man-flu on your side of the pond? men just get much iller than us, therefore they need more rest. its obvious really...

Oh, The Joys said...

In my family the reverse is true. K rallies. I pass out on the couch.

The Expatriate Chef said...

Let's see, I got two half work days to recover from violent chest cold, alternating work and rest. Husband? Down for a week solid, including the weekend.

Yeah, I hear you.

Susanne said...

Can't say because around here it's different. I'm the one in bed saying that she is too sick to do anything and my husband is the one who does all the housework until he keels over.

ms chica said...

They fucking whine more! At least mine does.