Monday, March 24, 2008

sugar and spice

My child is lucky. She has plenty of food and a safe home. Two parents who love her and books and books and books. She's learning to hold her own and to embrace her impending girlhood. Today she had a friend over and we walked over to the park. Her friend is a crazy climbing girl. She bounded up a tricky apparatus and looked down while M is looking up.

CCG: What's wrong, M? You scared? Big girls don't get scared. You're not a big girl.
M: I'm not scared and I am a big girl. But big girls can choose the things they want to do and I don't feel like doing this. And she turned and ran and jumped on something else.

And I smiled broadly, you go, precious baby girl. you go.
And realizing this truth, the import of the strength of growing our girls into women made me appreciate all the more reading Three Cups of Tea. I was deeply moved by Greg and his work in Pakistan, all in service of allowing girls to more fully realize their potential. I realize I may be one of the last people on earth who hadn't read it, but if you haven't it's more than worth your while. And it's reminded me again of what I already know: strong girls make for stronger communities.Image courtesy Greg Mortenson, Central Asia Institute.

35 comments:

flutter said...

Your daughter has your spirit. Hands down.

Wouldn't it be amazing if all little girls were encouraged to let their spirits blossom, just like hers?

nomotherearth said...

Your daughter sounds amazing. You must be so proud.

kristen said...

i love her confidence in her pretty pink dress. it cracks me up dude, that you've got the foofy girl just like me. xo

furiousBall said...

how sweet. my little girl called me last night and told me all about her egg hunt.

Gwen said...

jen! good job, you! raising a girl with such a strong and beautiful spirit! keep it up!

(and I haven't read the book, either, although it's on my bedside table.)

Chicky Chicky Baby said...

That's right! Big girls can choose to enjoy the world from whatever vantage point they want.

Amy Y said...

That beautiful daughter of yours never fails to astound me with the wisdom beyond her years.

Magpie said...

Strong girls become strong women. And yes, we make for strong communities.

Lovely child you have there.

Kyla said...

Oh, you are teaching her so many things. So many wonderful things.

Mrs. Chicken said...

She's her mama's girl, isn't she?

Christine said...

i haven't read it, but it sounds great.

and that girl of yours--brave and wonderful just like her mama.

Running on empty

Beck said...

That's a wonderful cause - and what a beautiful, strong girl you're raising.

Susanne said...

I'm so distracted by the picture of your beautiful girl that I'm almost forgetting the cause you're promoting here. But making girls strong is certainly important.

(And of course I haven't read the book.)

liv said...

What a smart girl. My girl is still squarely in the "Oh, yeah!?" camp where she wants to dive into every terrifying thing with her big brother.

Orangeblossoms said...

Strength and clarity.... girls who can Tell Their Truths! Wish I had had such a strong voice at her age.

meno said...

You are not the last person to read that book. I will be reading it soon for my book group. Now i am looking forward to it.

bgirl said...

evidently i too am behind, and now eager to read this.

love this post btw and the strength and conviction of your little girl.

Jennifer said...

She's strong, wise, and sure. Watch out, world!

I have just started that book and I'm already so inspired.

Blog Antagonist said...

She is Fierce, and you are obviously teaching her well. I'm not so sure I could do such a good job raising a girl child.

I often think how lucky my kids are just to have a warm bed to sleep in, a hot breakfast every morning, and clothes to put on their backs. What my kids have would be pure luxury to some. That's a thought that hurts me.

nyjlm said...

I love that she said that. Awesome. I think I'm going to have to slip that lesson in sometime.

I hadn't heard of that book- looks and sounds wonderful.

QT said...

I haven't heard of that book - it looks interesting...so I'M last, kay?

Also - can barely take the cute that is M. Barely!

Jocelyn said...

I have fretted since having a daughter about how to keep her intact, full of confidence in herself.

Getting them started young is the best thing I can think of.

Well done, Mama!

hele said...

Oh, this speaks right to the part of me that feels so deeply about giving children the tools they need to flower.

cce said...

You know, I really wanted to like that book and of course, who can argue with the message and the good works, but I didn't think the story was particularly well written. I couldn't finish it. Surely I am going to Hell.
I love that your M really understands the definition of "big girl" that takes some sagacity well beyond her years.

Aliki2006 said...

They are little heroes, that's what they are!

What a great story...

Bungi said...

That's one book i have been eyeing at the book store, but i am not buying it till i finish a couple more books i have been promising to read...

Defiantmuse said...

I still haven't read that book...I really need to pick up a copy.

and M, omg. cute dude. So friggin' cute. that is quite the dress!

and good for her for being so strong in stating her truth. Wonder who she learned that from??

KC said...

DUDE. Did the Star Chart help with that? If so, sign me up for 100 more.

Seriously. You rock, mama.

Jenny, the Bloggess said...

Your kid is my hero. Wonder where she gets it from?

The End of Motherhood? said...

Yes, yes. What a world we will have when all girls are allowed the freedom your sweet little girl so clearly has - to know herself, to own her feelings, and to act on both.

carrie said...

I've been needing to read that book, badly.

She is gorgeous. Love those curls!

Karen Forest said...

Good for M!

She looks precious in her Easter dress!

painted maypole said...

YOU are teaching her to be that awesome, strong girl. way to go!

Tis I. said...

Your daughter is Strong and Gorgeous. You are Blessed. So is she. xoxo Love you guys.

crazymumma said...

You are doing yourself proud M baby.

Go grrrrl.